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Thursday, January 14th, 2010

Can you stay friends post Break Up?

I have been through lots of relationships and they all didn’t work except for the one I am in now..

It’s been almost 5 years.. I can honestly say that I believe we could be friends if we ever broke up.. I think it’s because we have known each other since we were 13 years old and were friends first. I know that we couldn’t “hang out” or anything right away, but we could talk on the phone once and a while.

I guess it really depends on why you broke up. If it’s because of one cheating on the other than it will never work.

If you break up and even as soon as a month later meet up for coffee to try and start a friendship it ain’t gonna work. There will still be lovey feelings and then you are going to want to get back together and it isn’t going to work. You will end up sleeping together and wreck everything..

TRUST ME!

If you really truly want to be friends than try it slowly and don’t jump into things. More often than not, once you break up it’s over..

You have to get over the fact that you probably will never see them again.

Overall… Relationships don’t work for a reason.. It’s because both of your personalities don’t mesh well and you being friends isn’t going to be any different than when you were in that rocky relationship.

So stop crying over the fact that you guys broke up and find someone new to cuddle up next to.

Love isn’t suppose to make you upset..

Drawing done by Sean C.

Tags: Break Up, Friends, Love, Make Up, Relationship Advice, Relationships

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Tuesday, January 12th, 2010

How to tell if your lover is sleeping with your friend

Do you have the gut feeling that your friend and girlfriend/boyfriend are sleeping together.. ? I hope this isn’t happening to you because I know from experience how much this sucks..

However, I wanted to tell you the hints on how I found out that my boyfriend was sleeping around on me so that if it was happening to you.. that you could figure it out..

Don’t be the last to know!

Tags: Advice, Boyfriend, Cheaters, Friend, Girlfriend, Hate, Leslie Star, Love, Lover, Relationship, Sex, Sleeping

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Monday, January 11th, 2010

What NOT to do on a first date

Going on a first date with someone makes most people very nervous and they do things that they normally wouldn’t do because they are terrified..

However there are certain things you don’t do on a first date weather your nervous or not..

These are the Top Ten No No’s On A First Date

Do not talk about your ex’s. This is so important because you are trying to start a new relationship and you are over your ex (Hopefully). It is time to start fresh and you can’t do that by talking about your ex lover.. So not attractive
Talking about sex.. Unless you both are slutty and you can sense it .. I wouldn’t talk about sex your first date. It will probably make your date very uncomfortable and it will turn them off completely or turn them on if they are horny.
Don’t get drunk! There is nothing wrong with having a couple cocktails or a glass of wine with dinner but don’t order shots or drink like a fish all night.. I am sure that you are nervous but you will look like a complete mess by the end of the date and you will probably embarrass yourself or sleep with them and I guarantee you won’t get a second date..
Don’t grill the other person. You probably have a million questions to ask them, but don’t ask so many that it seems like they are in the interrogation room with the police. Leave some mystery for the second date.
Do not bring your friends along. A date is shared between two people.. If you bring friends a long it is soooo high school and your date will drop you like a hot potato.
If your a woman do not wear a short dress or skirt on your first date. It will give the wrong impression and they will only want to sleep with you. Wear some dark jeans with a nice blouse or a skirt that is just above the knees.
Turn off your damn phone. Before you go out make sure you cell phone, Blackberry and other electronic devices are turned off. Your date wants to feel like they are the most important person of the evening.
Don’t go to a location where you know a lot of people. You don’t want your friends coming up to the table all night striking up a conversation. Pick a quiet but fun place for the date and not your regular hang out.
Take cash out before your date. If your a guy.. then you will be paying for the dinner and everything else for the evening. If you don’t pay then you are in fact a loser and she should get up and leave the table if you don’t. Don’t pull this.. “I forgot my wallet at home.. or should we split this” bullsh*t. YOUR PAYING so take some money out before in case they only take cash.
Don’t talk the whole time. I talk a fair amount when I’m nervous but try not to.. The night is about the other person so give them a chance to talk about themselves. Don’t be a name dropper either if you know a lot of people.. That is so unattractive and it looks like your trying too hard. Be yourself because that is what will get you a new love interest.

Tags: Advice, Cell phones, Dating, Don't be cheap, First Date, Love, Manners, Relationship, What not to do

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Tuesday, January 5th, 2010

Where to meet the love of your life

I have a lot of single friends… hell.. I’ve been single for long periods of time before. At first when your freshly single you couldn’t be more excited about it. Your FREE! You can do whatever you want, hang out with whoever and just be yourself.. However that new car smell fades quickly and you start to get lonely and want someone to share great times with..

BUT HOW DO YOU MEET THEM?

Do something that you wouldn’t ordinarily do.. Go ice skating by yourself or take a pottery class. Do something where it won’t only be women (if your a woman unless your into that sort of thing) and only men (if your a man unless your into that sort of thing). Put yourself out on a limb and see who comes a knockin’.
Go grocery shopping.. I don’t know about you but when I was single I use to see cute guys everywhere.. The problem was I was too damn sh*t scared to approach them. You have to though… What is the worst that could happen.. Either they will say they are married (always check to see if there is a ring on the left finger first) or they will look awkward and turn around and walk away. Either reaction doesn’t matter because you will probably never see them again. Suck up your pride and focus on you. You are the great person that somebody would genuinely want. Don’t be afraid
Take a class. Go to your community college and see what they have to offer. Take something that you have always wanted to take. Buy some new schools supplies and some new clothes and look your hottest; that way if the class is boring than the hot guy or hot girl in class might be staring at you instead of the teacher.
Go to parties. When your friends have parties dress up and go have a blast. A person that smiles is attractive so if you are having fun and giving out positive vibes than for sure you will catch some one’s eye.
If you smoke.. Stop. Nothing is more disgusting than thinking about kissing the mouth of a smoker. Plus you stink and you have to spend way more money on the cigarettes than your signifacant other. Get healthy.. It’s time to start looking for your perfect mate.
Start going for walks in your neighborhood. If you have a dog take them out for walks as well and don’t forget a bag to pick up the crap.. Perhaps you have a hot neighbor that has a dog as well and you could start meeting them at the park. Even if you don’t find a mate doing this you could befriend them and they could have hot friends!
Travel if you have money to. Don’t put out a lot of cash thinking that if you travel somewhere you will pick up a hottie.. The problem with travelling is that if you travel far then you will have to have a long distance relationships and those hardly ever pan out. Just travel because you want to. Many people’s lives change for the better when they go on trips. You will probably meet a lot of fun and interesting people and expand your horizons a little bit.
Go to clubs, pubs and bars. I don’t usually recommend this because if guys go out to clubs they are more interested in getting some ass then finding the love of their life. However you might meet someone great. Bring a friend and have some drinks and dance the night away. Don’t have too many or you will be regretting it in the morning when you wake up to Mr. or Mrs. Ugly.. (Beer Goggles)
Write down what you are attracted to. If you are attracted to someone with money than start going to coffee shops where doctors hang out. If you are attracted to people that are physically active and outdoorsy than join a hiking team or a co-ed sports team.
Is it hard to meet the opposite sex? Yes of course it is but online dating sites can help get you started. It is important to meet the people that you are matched up with in a public place. Most importantly… don’t stress out about meeting someone. If you look for someone too much they won’t come around.. It’s when your not really looking that they will start calling you