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May 11th, 2010

Ouch, my heart hurts..

by Leslie Star » Love Advice, Tip of the Day

Is it possible to love someone too much?

Of course it is..

I have had it happen to me tons of times before.

I put my heart out there and it gets stomped on before I can pull it away.  It always breaks.. every time.

You think I would learn to protect it a bit better, but nope.

It’s not our fault that love zaps us in the ass and before we know it we are completely memorized by the other person.  You start to think of only that person all the time.

Their life consumes you until you have no live left of your own and you constantly wonder how and when you will get to see them again.

Sure it is important to think about the other frequently and tell them that you do, however to lose yourself is not ok.

Be strong and don’t forget that you love to go out with your friends, love to play sports and eat chicken wings ( unless your a vegetarian ;) ).  Remember that you love to sit at home and read a book, watch your fav TV show and bury your head in the basement with your video games until the sun comes up..

It’s easy to love someone but don’t love them so much that you engulf yourself in them because that pushes your partner away.

They want to know that you have your own life and you are secure in who you are.

I have been in bad relationships before and always wondered if they would ever change.  Truth is, they won’t.  You can love them too much and stay because you want it for what it could be and not what it is.

Join a class or something to occupy your time if every two seconds you “need” to call them.

Let them call you because your worth it.

Let them find out what it’s like to love someone too much.

Have you ever loved someone too much?

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January 14th, 2010

Can you stay friends post Break Up?

by Leslie Star » Advice, Love Advice

I have been through lots of relationships and they all didn’t work except for the one I am in now..

It’s been almost 5 years.. I can honestly say that I believe we could be friends if we ever broke up.. I think it’s because we have known each other since we were 13 years old and were friends first.  I know that we couldn’t “hang out” or anything right away, but we could talk on the phone once and a while.

I guess it really depends on why you broke up.  If it’s because of one cheating on the other than it will never work.

If you break up and even as soon as a month later meet up for coffee to try and start a friendship it ain’t gonna work.  There will still be lovey feelings and then you are going to want to get back together and it isn’t going to work.  You will end up sleeping together and wreck everything..

TRUST ME!

If you really truly want to be friends than try it slowly and don’t jump into things.  More often than not, once you break up it’s over..

You have to get over the fact that you probably will never see them again.

Overall… Relationships don’t work for a reason.. It’s because both of your personalities don’t mesh well and you being friends isn’t going to be any different than when you were in that rocky relationship.

So stop crying over the fact that you guys broke up and find someone new to cuddle up next to.

Love isn’t suppose to make you upset..

Drawing done by Sean C.  :)


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January 12th, 2010

How to tell if your lover is sleeping with your friend

by Leslie Star » Advice, Leslie Star on Youtube.com, Love Advice, Tip of the Day

Do you have the gut feeling that your friend and girlfriend/boyfriend are sleeping together.. ?  I hope this isn’t happening to you because I know from experience how much this sucks..

However, I wanted to tell you the hints on how I found out that my boyfriend was sleeping around on me so that if it was happening to you.. that you could figure it out..

Don’t be the last to know!

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January 11th, 2010

What NOT to do on a first date

by Leslie Star » Advice, Love Advice

Going on a first date with someone makes most people very nervous and they do things that they normally wouldn’t do because they are terrified..

However there are certain things you don’t do on a first date weather your nervous or not..

These are the Top Ten No No’s On A First Date

  1. Do not talk about your ex’s.  This is so important because you are trying to start a new relationship and you are over your ex (Hopefully).  It is time to start fresh and you can’t do that by talking about your ex lover.. So not attractive
  2. Talking about sex.. Unless you both are slutty and you can sense it .. I wouldn’t talk about sex your first date.  It will probably make your date very uncomfortable and it will turn them off completely or turn them on if they are horny.
  3. Don’t get drunk!  There is nothing wrong with having a couple cocktails or a glass of wine with dinner but don’t order shots or drink like a fish all night.. I am sure that you are nervous but you will look like a complete mess by the end of the date and you will probably embarrass yourself or sleep with them and I guarantee you won’t get a second date..
  4. Don’t grill the other person.  You probably have a million questions to ask them, but don’t ask so many that it seems like they are in the interrogation room with the police.  Leave some mystery for the second date.
  5. Do not bring your friends along.  A date is shared between two people.. If you bring friends a long it is soooo high school and your date will drop you like a hot potato.
  6. If your a woman do not wear a short dress or skirt on your first date.  It will give the wrong impression and they will only want to sleep with you.  Wear some dark jeans with a nice blouse or a skirt that is just above the knees.
  7. Turn off your damn phone.  Before you go out make sure you cell phone, Blackberry and other electronic devices are turned off.  Your date wants to feel like they are the most important person of the evening.
  8. Don’t go to a location where you know a lot of people.  You don’t want your friends coming up to the table all night striking up a conversation.  Pick a quiet but fun place for the date and not your regular hang out.
  9. Take cash out before your date.  If your a guy.. then you will be paying for the dinner and everything else for the evening.  If you don’t pay then you are in fact a loser and she should get up and leave the table if you don’t.  Don’t pull this.. “I forgot my wallet at home.. or should we split this” bullsh*t.  YOUR PAYING so take some money out before in case they only take cash.
  10. Don’t talk the whole time.  I talk a fair amount when I’m nervous but try not to.. The night is about the other person so give them a chance to talk about themselves.  Don’t be a name dropper either if you know a lot of people.. That is so unattractive and it looks like your trying too hard.  Be yourself because that is what will get you a new love interest. :)
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