Do you have the gut feeling that your friend and girlfriend/boyfriend are sleeping together.. ? I hope this isn’t happening to you because I know from experience how much this sucks..
However, I wanted to tell you the hints on how I found out that my boyfriend was sleeping around on me so that if it was happening to you.. that you could figure it out..
Going on a first date with someone makes most people very nervous and they do things that they normally wouldn’t do because they are terrified..
However there are certain things you don’t do on a first date weather your nervous or not..
These are the Top Ten No No’s On A First Date
Do not talk about your ex’s. This is so important because you are trying to start a new relationship and you are over your ex (Hopefully). It is time to start fresh and you can’t do that by talking about your ex lover.. So not attractive
Talking about sex.. Unless you both are slutty and you can sense it .. I wouldn’t talk about sex your first date. It will probably make your date very uncomfortable and it will turn them off completely or turn them on if they are horny.
Don’t get drunk! There is nothing wrong with having a couple cocktails or a glass of wine with dinner but don’t order shots or drink like a fish all night.. I am sure that you are nervous but you will look like a complete mess by the end of the date and you will probably embarrass yourself or sleep with them and I guarantee you won’t get a second date..
Don’t grill the other person. You probably have a million questions to ask them, but don’t ask so many that it seems like they are in the interrogation room with the police. Leave some mystery for the second date.
Do not bring your friends along. A date is shared between two people.. If you bring friends a long it is soooo high school and your date will drop you like a hot potato.
If your a woman do not wear a short dress or skirt on your first date. It will give the wrong impression and they will only want to sleep with you. Wear some dark jeans with a nice blouse or a skirt that is just above the knees.
Turn off your damn phone. Before you go out make sure you cell phone, Blackberry and other electronic devices are turned off. Your date wants to feel like they are the most important person of the evening.
Don’t go to a location where you know a lot of people. You don’t want your friends coming up to the table all night striking up a conversation. Pick a quiet but fun place for the date and not your regular hang out.
Take cash out before your date. If your a guy.. then you will be paying for the dinner and everything else for the evening. If you don’t pay then you are in fact a loser and she should get up and leave the table if you don’t. Don’t pull this.. “I forgot my wallet at home.. or should we split this” bullsh*t. YOUR PAYING so take some money out before in case they only take cash.
Don’t talk the whole time. I talk a fair amount when I’m nervous but try not to.. The night is about the other person so give them a chance to talk about themselves. Don’t be a name dropper either if you know a lot of people.. That is so unattractive and it looks like your trying too hard. Be yourself because that is what will get you a new love interest.
I have a lot of single friends… hell.. I’ve been single for long periods of time before. At first when your freshly single you couldn’t be more excited about it. Your FREE! You can do whatever you want, hang out with whoever and just be yourself.. However that new car smell fades quickly and you start to get lonely and want someone to share great times with..
BUT HOW DO YOU MEET THEM?
Do something that you wouldn’t ordinarily do.. Go ice skating by yourself or take a pottery class. Do something where it won’t only be women (if your a woman unless your into that sort of thing) and only men (if your a man unless your into that sort of thing). Put yourself out on a limb and see who comes a knockin’.
Go grocery shopping.. I don’t know about you but when I was single I use to see cute guys everywhere.. The problem was I was too damn sh*t scared to approach them. You have to though… What is the worst that could happen.. Either they will say they are married (always check to see if there is a ring on the left finger first) or they will look awkward and turn around and walk away. Either reaction doesn’t matter because you will probably never see them again. Suck up your pride and focus on you. You are the great person that somebody would genuinely want. Don’t be afraid
Take a class. Go to your community college and see what they have to offer. Take something that you have always wanted to take. Buy some new schools supplies and some new clothes and look your hottest; that way if the class is boring than the hot guy or hot girl in class might be staring at you instead of the teacher.
Go to parties. When your friends have parties dress up and go have a blast. A person that smiles is attractive so if you are having fun and giving out positive vibes than for sure you will catch some one’s eye.
If you smoke.. Stop. Nothing is more disgusting than thinking about kissing the mouth of a smoker. Plus you stink and you have to spend way more money on the cigarettes than your signifacant other. Get healthy.. It’s time to start looking for your perfect mate.
Start going for walks in your neighborhood. If you have a dog take them out for walks as well and don’t forget a bag to pick up the crap.. Perhaps you have a hot neighbor that has a dog as well and you could start meeting them at the park. Even if you don’t find a mate doing this you could befriend them and they could have hot friends!
Travel if you have money to. Don’t put out a lot of cash thinking that if you travel somewhere you will pick up a hottie.. The problem with travelling is that if you travel far then you will have to have a long distance relationships and those hardly ever pan out. Just travel because you want to. Many people’s lives change for the better when they go on trips. You will probably meet a lot of fun and interesting people and expand your horizons a little bit.
Go to clubs, pubs and bars. I don’t usually recommend this because if guys go out to clubs they are more interested in getting some ass then finding the love of their life. However you might meet someone great. Bring a friend and have some drinks and dance the night away. Don’t have too many or you will be regretting it in the morning when you wake up to Mr. or Mrs. Ugly.. (Beer Goggles)
Write down what you are attracted to. If you are attracted to someone with money than start going to coffee shops where doctors hang out. If you are attracted to people that are physically active and outdoorsy than join a hiking team or a co-ed sports team.
Is it hard to meet the opposite sex? Yes of course it is but online dating sites can help get you started. It is important to meet the people that you are matched up with in a public place. Most importantly… don’t stress out about meeting someone. If you look for someone too much they won’t come around.. It’s when your not really looking that they will start calling you
Typically I would suggest that you don’t try and rekindle your relationship with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend. They are an EX for a reason. However there are certain exceptions to the rule.
1. If you feel like your have lost your heart and the only way to feel whole again is to rekindle your lost love then go right ahead and try.
2. If you both moved away and you somehow lost touch..
3. After years of missing each other and realizing your mistakes, you try and contact each other.
In my opinion these are the only reasons to start up the failed relationship again.
Here is the How To Guide to Get Your EX Back:
Work on yourself after the breakup. Join a gym or work on your fitness like Fergie says.
Get a makeover. Nothing makes you feel more confident than a total new look.
Find a new hobby that is just for yourself. Nothing is hotter than a person that has their sh*t together.
Be relentless in trying to get them back. Don’t be a stalker or anything but send them flowers frequently. Try not to go all cheesy with teddy bears and all that cause it looks desperate even though you are. Even if you are desperate doesn’t mean you want to look like you are.
Ask to meet for coffee. As soon as they see you looking all hot and such they are going to want you back.
Send them a heart felt email. Tell them how much you miss them in your life and it’s not the same without them.
Try lavishing them with gifts if you have enough cash for that. Sure you can’t buy love with money but you can sure try.
Write them a song and record yourself singing it. It could go really bad if you can’t sing but let your friends listen to it first for their opinion so you don’t look like a fool if it sounds terrible.
Send their parents a gift. If they still live at home then most likely their parents have a little to do with telling them to forget about you. Try to win them over and you will be set.
Be yourself but a better version. Your relationship went down hill because you were probably comfortable and started to not try as hard. Get your life back on track and your ex will definitely take notice.
Make your ex question them self. Be so good to them that they question why you guys ever broke up in the first place. I know it’s bad to say this.. but if you have to put on a show to get them back then do it.
Do some research on how to get your ex back. Go to Chapters or some book store and go to the love/relationship section. Read all you can about winning the love of your life back.
If all fails and you are still trying but nothing is working then I am sorry to break it to you, but give it up. Desperation is not attractive and if they see that in you they are not going to be interested.
You don’t want them anyways if you have tried everything and they still don’t want to get back together.
Use your energy to get someone new and you will be much happier.
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